This is the very first time I am writing something "nontechnical stuff'(I must say).., So I would like to wish myself luck. ;) ;)
The above mentioned subject is quite familiar to most of the people in this world, especially in our country so I think there would be hardly anything which would be new to you, but it's just that I thought to scribble down everything at one place.
So here we go, the title “Sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log” says it all, which means the biggest fear we human beings (especially Indians) have that what he/she would think about me, what he/she would say about me, what if they make fun of me, what if it ends up being embarrassing & blah blah blah...
And with this we end up giving up so many precious things which we think or long to do.
Say for example, if you are standing at a red light in your car having fun with your friends & a beggar comes begging & your friends start mocking at him & suddenly there is a strike in your heart of generosity, thinking to give something to that poor guy but you decide against it just because of the fear, what your friends would think & may make fun of you, etc. etc. What I am trying to state here is just don’t let the fear of being mocked or anything let you suppress what you want to do. At times there is a sudden strong feeling which arises in our heart & we really wish to fulfil that but still suppress the same due to some or the other reason which again is not right since this small decision of suppressing our desire, no matter how small it may be, may not cost you much at that time but the same is obviously costing you in a way that you will gradually develop a habit to suppress your thoughts and eventually losing out the real human being in you who wishes to have freedom, do what he wants to do. A bitter truth is that we all say, I don’t care what he/she says or thinks about me but somewhere inside we do care, we do become conscious of the people surrounding us which may be our relatives or strangers. We live in a fear, what if I decide to do this or do that, but again everything ends up with a one liner, “I want to do this but you know I am afraid of what that uncle or aunty may think, that neighbor will say, that friend’s mom will say & the biggest & the most common one, “what if I fail” etc. etc.
Now I can bet many of us including me are always conscious of some or the other thing.., otherwise why would a thing like "facebook" be such a hit, if we din't care about what other people thought about us?Maybe it's just that we love the people around us, so we care about what they want, and try to do that to makethem happy, maybe we just wanna fit in, maybe we want to feel special, or maybe we are lonely and just want to please somebody so that we wouldn't have to be.
& so even strongly I can bet that, as when we look at the foreigners in our country, we always wonder about their carefree attitude, even if they would be wearing a shortest of half pants with a vest and a slipper, they would be looking cooler than us & that’s because we carry the burden of consciousness with us whereas they don’t even bother about anyone around but themselves.
To say the least, I would say, “Just be yourself” & lighten the burden of consciousness. & offcource if there are any suggestions or something which is an honest feedback or a constructive criticism we should take that.
Now most of you who might know me well may think, “better learn this yourself first & then try & teach others” & I am dead sure about this thought of yours.. but by writing this article, the urge in me to improve this aspect of mine will increase as every-time when I read this in future, it will remind me that I also need to work on this.
Someone also said very beautifully:
Sirf dil ko saaf rakhte hain hum....
Gairo se hume certificate nahi chahiye...
Kyoki laakh bhala karo... phir bhi...
Kuch to log kahenge... logo ka kaam hai kahna...
Chodo bekaar ki baaton ko... kahin ...beet na jaye raina!!!
I think its enough for the first time & would like to close it off here. Finally would like to say to everyone reading & to myself too that shed those beliefs & do what your inner voice is screaming at you to do & feel the trueness of life.
And last but in no way the least, thank you for your time & patience.
CHEERS!!!!!
~Shridutt
